“Praise how hard they’re working, how they’re focusing, the strategies they’re using, the progress they’re making over time. That backfires, Dweck says, because telling children they’re smart makes them believe “smart” is either something they have or don’t have, and that if they’re struggling, they must not be smart. A lot of parents react to a struggling, frustrated child by saying, “You’re smart, you’re so smart, don’t worry, you’re so smart.” When kids get frustrated, Dweck says, it’s important to explain to them that abilities grow over time, and hard tasks are what build those abilities.Īnother important thing to do is to praise the process. They just have to work hard at them over time. Math, music, and baseball aren’t things you’re either good at or you’re bad at.
When you use the word “yet,” she explains, it tells kids that these are skills that are acquired over time through practice and effort.
“I’m not good at math!” “I don’t know how to hit a baseball.” “I can’t play that song.” How should a parent respond? Carol Dweck, the author of Mindset, says we can help our children by reminding them that even if they haven’t mastered those things “yet.” For example, “You’re not good at this math yet - you just need a bit more time practicing, thinking about it, and figuring it out!” If they keep working at it, they can reach their goal.
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